To anyone out there that might be reading this:
If there's a nice girl (or guy) in your life right now, keep her and treasure her
And she just might be your forever
If there's a nice girl (or guy) in your life right now, keep her and treasure her
And she just might be your forever
10 Reasons Nice Girls Become Crazy Ex-Girlfriends
At some point, every crazy
ex-girlfriend was just a nice normal girl with a nice normal life — then she
met a guy that literally drove her crazy.
1. We care a lot (and usually way too much)
Nice
girls are used to giving 110 percent to anyone and everyone they care about:
their parents, their friends, the homeless man on the street, and their
significant others. So, they give a guy their whole heart and expect the same
in return. When that doesn’t happen, they are devastated and it drives them
crazy to think someone doesn’t reciprocate the complete devotion that they
give.
2. We are optimistic and hopeful
We are
always expecting the best out of everyone and every situation. So, when we
enter a new relationship, we think it will be magical and last forever. We
seriously just can’t help it. We just aren’t realistic about really anything.
So, when it ends like everyone around us told us it would, we are crushed.
Mind, body, and soul. Crushed.
3. We are givers
Giving
is our game and we play it well. We love to give to the people we love. Whether
it’s small surprises on the reg just to show how much we care or huge
extravagant surprises to let our man know he’s the best, we just love to give.
We eventually give until we can’t give anymore, and when we aren’t being given
anything, we just run out of fuel and it breaks our little hearts.
4. We are over the top about life
We just
love to love and be alive and run around smiling and laughing and giving people
flowers and being ridiculously annoying. We’re really just too much. Too much
to handle and too much to deal with for a long time unless you just really love
us and accept our ridiculous ways. That goes for when we’re sad too. We are
dramatic and let the whole world know how sad we are, which makes us look
pretty crazy. Sorry we’re dramatic and sorry we’re either way too happy or way
too sad, but we seriously don’t know how to stop it.
5. Our emotions get the best of us
We cry
when we see two old people holding hands or one old person eating alone. We cry
when we watch any and every movie with Rachel McAdams in it. We play out these
romantic scenarios in our heads that will probably never even happen. We plan
out our futures the moment we meet a guy. It’s ridiculous, we know, but just
leave us alone. We can’t help we’re hopeless romantics.
6. We need affirmation
We nice
girls have to be reminded daily or ten times a day that we are beautiful,
special, cool, loved, fun, neat, awesome, nice, etc. It doesn’t matter if you
told us last week that you’ll love us forever, we need to be told now and
later. Sorry, it’s the way our fragile little brains work. It doesn’t make us
dumb or weird, it’s just how we function. Tell us we’re pretty. Tell us you
love us. It’s not that hard. But, when weeks go by with no affirmation – yikes.
Watch out. Because you’ve just unleashed an emotionally unstable monster.
7. We think everyone’s else’s brain works just like ours
Nice,
sweet girls just have this naive belief that everyone else in the world is nice
and sweet too. It rocks our world to know that other people (mainly our
significant other) aren’t always thinking of ways to make other people happy.
War and violence? No way. Our boyfriend isn’t oozing with affection for us?
You’re kidding! Naive and never understanding why that guy isn’t always
thinking of ways to make us happy – that’s us. We’re sorry.
8. We don’t plan for goodbye
“You
can plan for a change in the weather and time, but I never planned on you
changing your mind.” That’s a great quote from a great song, “Last Kiss,”
by a great person, Taylor Swift. She hit the nail right on the head with that
line. As a nice, sweet girl herself, Taylor is letting the world know how
tragic it is when someone tells us goodbye because we just never thought it could
happen. It’s not that we think that highly of ourselves, we just aren’t usually
the ones that say goodbye. There are exceptions, sure, but for the most part,
we are in it for the long haul with friends or boyfriends. We commit and we are
buckled down and ready for forever. We like plans and boy do we hate when those
plans get messed up. It’s hard for us to cope with someone throwing a wrench in
our perfect plans, so we go a little bit nuts and bolts when a guy says goodbye
and leaves us feeling all messed up and broken.
9. Love not war
We are
all about some love, no fighting. We don’t want to fight, we really don’t. Love
makes us so happy, and no love makes us so sad. When we get into arguments with
our significant other, we just want to say, “Okay let’s just not fight and
let’s make up right now and pretend it never happened.” We don’t want to “give
each other space” or “take time to think” because that does no good in our
minds. We want it solved and we want it solved now. We want to just be happy and
loving and we usually cause another fight because we won’t just give it a rest.
10. We just really do believe in love and happy endings
We grew
up being told of this Prince Charming dude that would come knocking on our
doors. We bought into it and believed it wholeheartedly. We didn’t watch the
Disney movie where the princess DIDN’T get the prince. So, when we meet someone
who we think is here to rescue us from the fiery tower, imagine our surprise
when he leaves us in the tower! How rude. We just want a fairytale, so when we
get just the opposite, it’s hard for us to believe there’s someone else out
there. We’ll get over it, we swear, but first, let us cry hysterically and post
a super sappy tweet about love and broken hearts. Call us crazy, but it’s how we
deal with Mr. Charming bailing.
So,
next time you encounter a crazy ex-girlfriend, just remember, she was once (and
still is) a nice, sweet, loving, optimistic soul that just wants some love. We
know you aren’t the one, and that isn’t your fault. And she’ll figure that out
too and send you some long, tender text six months after you break up about how
she’s moved on and she’s thankful for what you taught her. And she means it. It
makes her look even crazier, but just take it for what it is – a nice
girl letting you know she isn’t as crazy as you told her friends she was.
And
when you find that one that you will marry and love forevermore, chances are,
she was a crazy ex-girlfriend one time too.
